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Boarding School Survivors

Attending boarding school can settle patterns of behaviour and unexpressed feelings that can last a lifetime.  These patterns can turn up in work, in the family, with children or intimate relationships.  Perhaps .....

  • you are living by rules created a long time ago

  • you don't 'feel' like others do 

  • you can't express what your partner wants to hear

  • you don't want your children to go through what you went through

  • you may feel 'locked up' in your life

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We'll work together to identify the patterns that are turning up in your life and what they mean for you now and how you might like that to change.   Everybody's experience is unique but there are some shared moments in how ex. boarders adapt to make sense of being sent to a school to live, sometimes in a foreign country.  You are not alone in what you experience.

Selected Resources for ex Boarders

If you are currently at Boarding School and need to talk to someone then please call Childline on 0800 1111 or visit their website here

Boarding School Survivors Support - information and annual conference for BSS.  The conference is held every November in London - details on the website

Boarding School Survivors - information, workshops and therapy recommendations

Podcasts, Books and Films

Podcast - An Evolving Man - Piers Cross

The Making of Them - book and film - Nick Duffell

Wounded Leaders - Nick Duffell

Boarding School Syndrome - Joy Schaverin

Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege - Nick Duffell and Thurstine Basset

Finding Our Way Home - Women's accounts of boarding school

Men's Accounts of Boarding School - Routledge

Beserker - Adrian Edmondson

Stiff Upper Lip - Alex Renton

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